dealing with a loss

this question is a little off topic, but it's going out to every coach on this site. one of the players on the team i'm helping coach this year just lost his brother in a nasty car accident. the little boy, whose name is t.j., is taking it well, but some of the other players and their parents are not. the question i have for y'all is how do you deal with something like this, what do you say, how do you find that balance between being considerate while still preparing your team. i remember when i suffered a loss my junior year in high school, most of the players where there for me, but the coaches did nothing to help me out. they just kind of left me there, with the exception of coach peralez, now with victoria. i really looked up to that coaching staff at the time, as i feel most players do with their respective coaches, but they did nothing to help. is this the right thing to do??, or is it important to acknowledge and address the problem. what do you do. please help, i don't know how to handle this, and i don't want it to be something that becomes more of a distraction than it has to be. i don't want the kids to be thinking too much on this and go out there and get hurt. i guess what i'm trying to find out is how do i deal with this in order for my players to understand and effectively deal with the situation. any and all suggestions are greatly appreciated.