No respect for Head Coach

By all means, keep TIGHT LIPPED publicly around there, & LEAVE if possible!!!!!

If word gets out that you "bad-mouthed" him - NO ONE will hire a disloyal assistant!

If you stay, then YOU be the moderating force with the players!

GREAT ADVICE!!!!!!!!

Agreed. Keep you mouth shut and move on. If you choose to stay, remember you are there for the players. Either way, be a professional. Actions speak louder than words.

Thanks for the great advice everyone! I certainly have a lot to think about. I truly value the input of those of you who have been at this far longer than I have. I'll keep you posted on what I decide to do.

Mackey

This will sound pretty repetitive, but publicly stay as loyal as possible. I'm reading Bobby Bowden's book right now, and he says the first thing he looks for is "loyaly, loyalty, loyalty" from his assistants. I agree with an above post--if this guy is as bad as you say, his time should be relatively short anyway.

and honestly if you cannot be loyal, you need to go somewhere else where you can be. Hey Coach Easton, have you mellowed in your older age? In the last few years did you grab anyone by their Adams Apple? That had to hurt!

Gentlemen,

I have thought a lot about this thread and my emotions have been mixed. I finally came the the following thought process. I firmly believe in being 100% loyal to the head coach but there are lines that I cannot accept being crossed. If I disagree with the philosphy of the HC, the system of offense/defense/special teams, etc, how he chooses to call plays, his tempo of play, whether or not he chooses to run kids as punishment, or anything that deals with his style vs mine, I cannot make a public issue of this. I MUST defend him to anyone who comes to me with issues. THAT IS MY JOB AND I MUST REMAIN LOYAL TO HIM OR HER.

If, however, the coaches decisions affect the physical or mental welfare of the players to a degree then I must make a decision. I believe we must keep the kids welfare in mind first. If a coach is fondling players it is against the law for me not to report him. If he/she shows up drunk at practice and it is not a first time instance I believe the other coaches have a right to look out for themselves and the kids. If the coach is being extremely inapproptiate with their language to the point that the psychological welfare of the kids is being threatened, I believe that the kids have a right to be in a better situation. I watched a coach drop the F-bomb repeatedly as well as countless other swear words and call the kids names such as an "F"ing chicken $#!t in front of the team at a meeting the day after a game while still feeling the affects of the previous nights binge drinking. That, along with the other incidences throughout the year and the past led me to get out of this situation. I made it perfectly clear to him why I was getting out but I also told him that my issues were staying within the staff. I never went to administration. I also made it clear, though, that if those behaviors continued and administration gets involved, I wouldn't back him.

I COMMEND THE BEHAVIOR OF BEING LOYAL TO THE HEAD COACH BUT I DISAGREE THAT COACHES SHOULD LOOK PAST INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIORS. There is an old school mentality there that no longer serves it's purpose.

Would you want YOUR child to be put in a situation that was preventable but wasn't because of this so-called "loyalty"?