Post by Coach Campbell on Mar 31, 2013 22:35:30 GMT
The Role of Parents
The role of the parent in the education of a student is important. The support shown in the home is often manifested in the ability of the student to accept the opportunities presented at school, in the classroom, and through co-curricular activities.
There is a special value system — established in the home, nurtured in the school — which young people are developing. Their involvement in classroom and other activities contributes to that development. Integrity, fairness and respect are lifetime values taught through athletics.
These are the principles of good sportsmanship. With them, the spirit of competition thrives, fueled by honest rivalry, courteous relations and graceful acceptance of the results.
As a parent of a student at our school, your sportsmanship goals should include:
• Realizing that athletics are part of the educational experience, and the benefits of
involvement go beyond the final score of a game;
• Encouraging our students to perform their best, just as we would urge them on with
their class work, knowing that others will always turn in better or lesser performances;
• Participating in positive cheers that encourage our students; and discouraging any
cheer that would redirect that focus—including those that taunt and intimidate
opponents, their fans and officials;
• Learning, understanding and respecting the rules of the game, the officials who
administer them and their decisions;
• Respecting the task that our coaches' face as teachers; and supporting them as they
strive to educate our youth;
• Respecting our opponents as fellow students, and acknowledging them for striving
to do their best; and
• Developing a sense of dignity under all circumstances
Be a fan... not a fanatic!
You can have a major influence on your student's attitude about academics and athletics. The leadership role you take in sportsmanship will help influence your child, and our community, for years to come. We look forward to serving you in the year ahead, and appreciate your continued support.
Parent — Coach Relationship
Both parenting and coaching are extremely difficult vocations. By establishing an understanding of each position, we are better able to accept the actions of the other and provide greater benefits to the student-athlete. As parents, when your children become involved in our athletic program, you have a right to understand what expectations are placed on your child. This begins with a clear communication from the coach of your child's program.
Expectations for Our Coaches
1. Sound coaching Philosophy.
2. Coach's expectations of the student-athlete and the team.
3. Team and Administration requirements, i.e. Athletic eligibility, fees, etc.
4. Coaches off-season conditioning program.
5. Procedure for handling injuries.
6. A list of team rules and consequences.
7. Teaching principles of sportsmanship, ethics, good behavior and drug prevention.
Expectations of You as a Parent
1. Concerns expressed directly to the coach.
2. Notification of schedule conflicts well in advance.
3. Specific concerns in coach's philosophy and/or expectations.
4. Encourage your child to discuss concerns with the coach first and promptly.
5. To be a role model to our children during contests and/or practices.
6. Support of the coach's sportsmanship and drug prevention efforts.
As your children become involved in athletics, they will experience some of the most rewarding moments of their lives. It is important to understand that there also may be times when things do not go the way you or your child wishes. At these times discussion with the coach is encouraged.
Appropriate Concerns to Discuss with Coaches
1. The treatment of your child mentally and physically.
2. Ways to help your child improve.
3. Concerns about your child's behavior.
4. College options and recruiting.
Issues Not Appropriate to Discuss with Coaches
1. Playing time.
2. Team strategy.
3. Play calling (Offense or Defense).
4. Other student-athletes.
If You Have Concerns to Discuss, Please Follow This Procedure:
It is often very difficult to accept that your child is not playing as much as you may hope. Coaches are professionals. They spend many hours preparing in and out of season for the success of our student-athletes. They make judgments based on what they believe to be the best for all the athletes involved. If you or your child is unhappy with some aspect of the team, please follow this procedure.
1. Student-athlete approaches the coach with any appropriate concern...
* If they are not satisfied: Parents should call the coach, and set up an appointment to discuss any appropriate concern.
3. PLEASE DO NOT ATTEMPT to confront a coach before or after a contest or practice. These can be emotional times for both the parents and the coach. Meetings of this nature do not generally result in a mutually profitable outcome.
What can a parent do if the meeting with the coach
did not provide a satisfactory solution?
1. Call the Athletic Director and make an appointment to discuss the situation.
2. At this meeting the appropriate next step can be determined.
Since research indicates a student involved in extracurricular activities has a greater chance for success during adulthood, these programs have been established. Many of the character traits required to be a successful participant are exactly those that will promote a successful life after high school. We hope the information provided within this pamphlet makes both your child's and your experience with athletics more enjoyable.
________________________________________________________________________
* Please do NOT approach a coach right after a game (even when we win) and expect to
have a meaningful, productive discussion. Absolutely no good can come of it. If you think
the kids are "into" the game, multiply that intensity by about 20, and you'll have an idea
where the coaches are. Let it go. Call the next day when everybody is on a more even keel.
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
* If you want your son to act respectfully toward others, you have to set the example.
Some people complain that young men aren't respectful of their coaches or teachers.
Such behavior starts in the home. Think about the example you set for your child.
Is it the right example? Do you speak and act with respect and dignity toward coaches?
________________________________________________________________________
The Parent — Coach Partnership
Research is clear that when parents and teachers work together a child tends to do better in school. There is no reason to think that it is any different in youth sports. The following are some guidelines for how parents can contribute to a Coach/Parent Partnership that can help the athlete have the best possible experience.
1. Recognize the Commitment the Coach Has Made: For whatever reason, you have chosen not to help coach the team. The coach has made a commitment that involves many, many hours of preparation beyond the hours spent at practices and games. Recognize his commitment and the fact that he is not doing it because of the pay! Try to remember this whenever something goes awry during the season.
2. Make Early, Positive Contact with the Coach: As soon as you know who your child's coach is going to be, contact her to introduce yourself and let her know you want to help your child have the best experience she can have this season. To the extent that you can do so, ask if there is any way you can help. By getting to know the coach early and establishing a positive relationship, it will be much easier to talk with her later if a problem arises.
3. Fill the Coach's Emotional Tank: When the coach is doing something you like, let him know about it. Coaching is a difficult job and most coaches only hear from parents when they want to complain about something. This will help fill the coach's emotional tank and contribute to his doing a better job. It also makes it easier to raise problems later when you have shown support for the good things he is doing. And just about every coach does a lot of things well. Take the time to look for them.
4. Don't Put the Player in the Middle: Imagine a situation around the dinner table, in which a child's parents complain in front of her about how poorly her math teacher is teaching fractions. How would this impact this student's motivation to work hard to learn fractions? How would it affect her love of mathematics? While this may seem farfetched, when we move away from school to youth sports, it is all too common for parents to share their disapproval of a coach with their children. This puts a young athlete in a bind.
Divided loyalties do not make it easy for a child to do her best. Conversely, when parents support a coach, it is that much easier for the child to put her wholehearted effort into learning to play well. If you think your child's coach is not handling a situation well, do not tell that to the player. Rather, seek a meeting with the coach in which you can talk with her about it.
5. Don't Give Instructions During a Game or Practice: You are not one of the coaches, so do not give your child instructions about how to play. It can be very confusing for a child to hear someone other than the coach yelling out instructions during a game. As in #4 above, if you have an idea for a tactic, go to the coach and offer it to him. Then let him decide whether he is going to use it or not. If he decides not to use it, let it be. Getting to decide those things is one of the privileges he has earned by making the commitment to coach.
6. Fill Your Child's Emotional Tank: Perhaps the most important thing you can do is to be there for your child. Competitive sports are stressful to players and the last thing they need is a critic at home. Be a cheerleader for your child. Focus on the positive things she is doing and leave the correcting of mistakes to the coach. Let her know you support her without reservation regardless of how well she plays.
7. Fill the Emotional Tanks of the Entire Team: Cheer for all of the players on the team. Tell each of them when you see them doing something well.
8. Encourage Other Parents to Honor the Game: Don't show disrespect for the other team or the officials. But more than that, encourage other parents to also Honor the Game. If a parent of a player on your team begins to berate the official, gently say to them, "Hey, that's not Honoring the Game. That's not the way we do things here."
The role of the parent in the education of a student is important. The support shown in the home is often manifested in the ability of the student to accept the opportunities presented at school, in the classroom, and through co-curricular activities.
There is a special value system — established in the home, nurtured in the school — which young people are developing. Their involvement in classroom and other activities contributes to that development. Integrity, fairness and respect are lifetime values taught through athletics.
These are the principles of good sportsmanship. With them, the spirit of competition thrives, fueled by honest rivalry, courteous relations and graceful acceptance of the results.
As a parent of a student at our school, your sportsmanship goals should include:
• Realizing that athletics are part of the educational experience, and the benefits of
involvement go beyond the final score of a game;
• Encouraging our students to perform their best, just as we would urge them on with
their class work, knowing that others will always turn in better or lesser performances;
• Participating in positive cheers that encourage our students; and discouraging any
cheer that would redirect that focus—including those that taunt and intimidate
opponents, their fans and officials;
• Learning, understanding and respecting the rules of the game, the officials who
administer them and their decisions;
• Respecting the task that our coaches' face as teachers; and supporting them as they
strive to educate our youth;
• Respecting our opponents as fellow students, and acknowledging them for striving
to do their best; and
• Developing a sense of dignity under all circumstances
Be a fan... not a fanatic!
You can have a major influence on your student's attitude about academics and athletics. The leadership role you take in sportsmanship will help influence your child, and our community, for years to come. We look forward to serving you in the year ahead, and appreciate your continued support.
Parent — Coach Relationship
Both parenting and coaching are extremely difficult vocations. By establishing an understanding of each position, we are better able to accept the actions of the other and provide greater benefits to the student-athlete. As parents, when your children become involved in our athletic program, you have a right to understand what expectations are placed on your child. This begins with a clear communication from the coach of your child's program.
Expectations for Our Coaches
1. Sound coaching Philosophy.
2. Coach's expectations of the student-athlete and the team.
3. Team and Administration requirements, i.e. Athletic eligibility, fees, etc.
4. Coaches off-season conditioning program.
5. Procedure for handling injuries.
6. A list of team rules and consequences.
7. Teaching principles of sportsmanship, ethics, good behavior and drug prevention.
Expectations of You as a Parent
1. Concerns expressed directly to the coach.
2. Notification of schedule conflicts well in advance.
3. Specific concerns in coach's philosophy and/or expectations.
4. Encourage your child to discuss concerns with the coach first and promptly.
5. To be a role model to our children during contests and/or practices.
6. Support of the coach's sportsmanship and drug prevention efforts.
As your children become involved in athletics, they will experience some of the most rewarding moments of their lives. It is important to understand that there also may be times when things do not go the way you or your child wishes. At these times discussion with the coach is encouraged.
Appropriate Concerns to Discuss with Coaches
1. The treatment of your child mentally and physically.
2. Ways to help your child improve.
3. Concerns about your child's behavior.
4. College options and recruiting.
Issues Not Appropriate to Discuss with Coaches
1. Playing time.
2. Team strategy.
3. Play calling (Offense or Defense).
4. Other student-athletes.
If You Have Concerns to Discuss, Please Follow This Procedure:
It is often very difficult to accept that your child is not playing as much as you may hope. Coaches are professionals. They spend many hours preparing in and out of season for the success of our student-athletes. They make judgments based on what they believe to be the best for all the athletes involved. If you or your child is unhappy with some aspect of the team, please follow this procedure.
1. Student-athlete approaches the coach with any appropriate concern...
* If they are not satisfied: Parents should call the coach, and set up an appointment to discuss any appropriate concern.
3. PLEASE DO NOT ATTEMPT to confront a coach before or after a contest or practice. These can be emotional times for both the parents and the coach. Meetings of this nature do not generally result in a mutually profitable outcome.
What can a parent do if the meeting with the coach
did not provide a satisfactory solution?
1. Call the Athletic Director and make an appointment to discuss the situation.
2. At this meeting the appropriate next step can be determined.
Since research indicates a student involved in extracurricular activities has a greater chance for success during adulthood, these programs have been established. Many of the character traits required to be a successful participant are exactly those that will promote a successful life after high school. We hope the information provided within this pamphlet makes both your child's and your experience with athletics more enjoyable.
________________________________________________________________________
* Please do NOT approach a coach right after a game (even when we win) and expect to
have a meaningful, productive discussion. Absolutely no good can come of it. If you think
the kids are "into" the game, multiply that intensity by about 20, and you'll have an idea
where the coaches are. Let it go. Call the next day when everybody is on a more even keel.
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
* If you want your son to act respectfully toward others, you have to set the example.
Some people complain that young men aren't respectful of their coaches or teachers.
Such behavior starts in the home. Think about the example you set for your child.
Is it the right example? Do you speak and act with respect and dignity toward coaches?
________________________________________________________________________
The Parent — Coach Partnership
Research is clear that when parents and teachers work together a child tends to do better in school. There is no reason to think that it is any different in youth sports. The following are some guidelines for how parents can contribute to a Coach/Parent Partnership that can help the athlete have the best possible experience.
1. Recognize the Commitment the Coach Has Made: For whatever reason, you have chosen not to help coach the team. The coach has made a commitment that involves many, many hours of preparation beyond the hours spent at practices and games. Recognize his commitment and the fact that he is not doing it because of the pay! Try to remember this whenever something goes awry during the season.
2. Make Early, Positive Contact with the Coach: As soon as you know who your child's coach is going to be, contact her to introduce yourself and let her know you want to help your child have the best experience she can have this season. To the extent that you can do so, ask if there is any way you can help. By getting to know the coach early and establishing a positive relationship, it will be much easier to talk with her later if a problem arises.
3. Fill the Coach's Emotional Tank: When the coach is doing something you like, let him know about it. Coaching is a difficult job and most coaches only hear from parents when they want to complain about something. This will help fill the coach's emotional tank and contribute to his doing a better job. It also makes it easier to raise problems later when you have shown support for the good things he is doing. And just about every coach does a lot of things well. Take the time to look for them.
4. Don't Put the Player in the Middle: Imagine a situation around the dinner table, in which a child's parents complain in front of her about how poorly her math teacher is teaching fractions. How would this impact this student's motivation to work hard to learn fractions? How would it affect her love of mathematics? While this may seem farfetched, when we move away from school to youth sports, it is all too common for parents to share their disapproval of a coach with their children. This puts a young athlete in a bind.
Divided loyalties do not make it easy for a child to do her best. Conversely, when parents support a coach, it is that much easier for the child to put her wholehearted effort into learning to play well. If you think your child's coach is not handling a situation well, do not tell that to the player. Rather, seek a meeting with the coach in which you can talk with her about it.
5. Don't Give Instructions During a Game or Practice: You are not one of the coaches, so do not give your child instructions about how to play. It can be very confusing for a child to hear someone other than the coach yelling out instructions during a game. As in #4 above, if you have an idea for a tactic, go to the coach and offer it to him. Then let him decide whether he is going to use it or not. If he decides not to use it, let it be. Getting to decide those things is one of the privileges he has earned by making the commitment to coach.
6. Fill Your Child's Emotional Tank: Perhaps the most important thing you can do is to be there for your child. Competitive sports are stressful to players and the last thing they need is a critic at home. Be a cheerleader for your child. Focus on the positive things she is doing and leave the correcting of mistakes to the coach. Let her know you support her without reservation regardless of how well she plays.
7. Fill the Emotional Tanks of the Entire Team: Cheer for all of the players on the team. Tell each of them when you see them doing something well.
8. Encourage Other Parents to Honor the Game: Don't show disrespect for the other team or the officials. But more than that, encourage other parents to also Honor the Game. If a parent of a player on your team begins to berate the official, gently say to them, "Hey, that's not Honoring the Game. That's not the way we do things here."